According to Jonathan Cainer:
As the emotional pressure intensifies, the potential for passion increases and the communication between you and someone else gets ever more tricky, we have to ask how you ended up in a situation like the one you now face? You don’t have time to pick over all the details and there’s no point in attributing blame. You are where you are and all that matters is that you move on from here. Take a moment to recall one defining incident in the chain of events that led to this point. Within that development is the key to your next step.