According to Jonathan Cainer:
You really don’t have to put up with a situation you find impossible or unbearable. There may be no way to wave a magic wand and make everything wonderful, but there is, nonetheless, an important element in your love life over which you have plenty of choice. It is almost as if you feel offended or upset by the fact that you face a particular problem. It makes you feel inclined not to try or to bother. ‘If that can go wrong,’ you argue, ‘so can everything else.’ Not so. You do have power you can use. Now is the time to exploit it.